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Predators' Bad Experiences: Women's Pain and
Suffering
In their writings in the World Sex Guide, men
inadvertently reveal their abuse of women. The reader can get a glimpse of the humiliation
and physical pain most of the women endure at the hands of men who buy them by reading
accounts of men’s "bad experiences." To the men who buy women and children
a bad experience means they didn’t get their money’s worth or that the woman
didn’t keep up her act of enjoying what she had to do. Here is an example from a
tourist in Bangkok, the City of Angels:
City of Angels "The room was large, had a bath tub, king
size bed with lots of mirrors. I undressed her and she undressed me. She never smiled or
laughed. We both entered the hot bathtub and she washed me carefully and then herself.
Then she prepared some bath foam in a bin, puted it [sic] onto an airbed in front of the
bathtub, and invited me to lay down. Than she applied the legendary massage without hands:
She massaged me with her body: her breast and very much with her pubic bone. But after 10
minutes it was over. She tried to give me a blowjob, but she was that bad that I did not
even get an erection. I thought about helping her with thinking at something really nice,
but then I thought "what for do I pay?" [sic] After five minutes successless
[sic] blowing I asked her to postpone that. We dried each other and went to the bed. She
expected to get fucked immediately but I thought if I can stay for up to two hours, than I
want a real massage. I laid down on my front and she was astonished that I expect a back
massage. She started and it was really painful, because she did not use any lubricant. I
asked her for oil. Again she was astonished: "You want an oil massage?" She
picked up a little oil bottle from her bag. Then the massage was much better - even though
I have had a lot of better massages. She did not even know that muscles are massaged and
not bones. After 15 minutes I was much more relaxed and thought about the number of the
girl. And she was worth that number. Then I asked for a condom and fucked her for another
30 minutes. Her face looked like she was feeling a lot of pain, even when I licked her
softly. She blocked my way when I wanted to leave the room and asked for a tip. I gave her
600bath. All together not a good experience."[22]
Predators Enslave Women and Girls
Numerous accounts by human rights groups have revealed that many of the
girls and women in prostitution industries around the world are virtual slaves. The
men’s comments reveal that they know that. One man on the Internet explained to
others that the girls in Bangkok "virtually get ‘sold’ by their families
into the industry." Another man said, "Yes, there is slavery in Bangkok.
Some girls work against their will." He then goes on to describe where those
"kept" girls are most likely to be found. He says, "if this is a
problem for you, simply stay away from [those hotels]. Another way of handling this
is, of course, to be gentle and gentlemanry [sic] and give the girl a good time
whether she is a slave or not."[23]
Slavery is accepted and exploited by these predators.
Men seek out establishments where women are enslaved for their sadistic sexual violence.
One man said,
"The hotel girls are usually younger than most
other ‘available’ girls in Bangkok, 14-15 years old being rather common. They
are in effect ‘owned’ by the hotel, which means that you can treat them more or
less any way you want — and many men do. Hotels like this should be like paradise for
those of us who are into S&M [sadomasochism]."[24]
Although the basis of prostitution is economic exploitation for the pimps, brothel and
bar owners, the men who buy the women and girls engage in enslaving them for purposes of
sexual gratification and domination. The following selection, from a man’s report on
his prostitution tour in Thailand, reveals in his own words, how the women are constrained
and forced to perform sex acts for basic survival.
"You can go to an island. ...You and a buddy or
two go to a beach resort .... and talk to any of the boat owners in the harbor. He agrees
to meet you at a specified time the next day. Then you spend the evening storing up on
good books, rented scuba gear, frisbees, things like that-and go bar hunting. There are
bars, and there will be bar girls, and some of them will agree to join you the next day.
Come the next day, your party (two or three guys, five or six girls, perhaps) transfers to
the ship and is taken to one of the thousands of small paradise islands off the coast of
Thailand. It will be deserted, maybe with a hut or a bungalow, but with no people at all.
Then you agree with the skipper to come by every day with fresh food, and to pick you up
again in a week. It is a great way of getting both a good tan, a good relaxation, and all
your sexual fantasies fulfilled. Last time I did this, we quickly established a house rule
that no girl was ever allowed to wear any piece of clothing except her sandals. That, plus
our other rule that every girl had to in some appropriate way or another earn her food
before every meal, turned the stay in a rather pleasant one."
The following is another example of a man’s self-report of forcing a prostituted
woman to stay with him and submit to sex when she did not want to. He felt entitled to 20
hours of ownership because he paid for that amount of time to the brothel owner. This man
is writing about buying a woman in Phnom Penh, Cambodia.
"At my last stop I do find a Khmer girl. She’s thin with small breasts and
a very attractive girlish figure to go with her cute face. I settle on $15 to have her for
the night and until noon the next day. This I make clear with the papasan, but it is
apparently not clear with the girl. Her name is Mao and the two of us take a moto-taxi
back to my hotel. I quickly have her undressed, with her attempting to conceal her body
within a towel. She turns out to be another okay screw, not especially passionate, and
absolutely refuses to let me [perform oral sex.] Her other difficulty is her insistence on
watching TV, which I will allow [only as] a tradeoff, if she allows [oral sex]. She has a
childish inability to seek compromise, though, instead kicking her feet in a tantrum of
sorts, and the TV remains off.
We do manage a shower together to go with the sex, and the next
morning we wash each other’s hair and she shaves me. As the morning proceeds, though,
her restlessness increases turning at times into tantrums, pouting, and even a few tears.
Having already got a read on her early on, I don’t buy any of this, and later on she
just as easily allows me another screw with her.
Finally, at a little after 11 am I decide I’ve had enough fun and
we both dress to go out. We go outside to hale a moto-taxi and from across the street
comes what I guess is one of the mamasams."
Even from the man’s perspective the woman wants to leave and is resisting, but he
feels entitled to temporary ownership for the time he has paid.
Predators Buy Children
Although the average age of prostitutes in many countries is so young
that most of it is by definition child sex abuse, the men publish information on
newsgroups on where to find very young girls. One man says, that in Bangkok, "there
is child prostitution. I have been offered 9-year-olds, and 14-year-olds are not uncommon."
His solution: "If child prostitution turns you off, be careful when you select
your girl."[25] Another man described which street corners are the best for
finding pimps who supply pre-teen girls. He said not to worry if you ask the wrong guy, he
will probably just direct you to the right one. One man said:
"Outside ______ is the best chance of finding
guys selling very young girls - pre-teens. You strike contact with the guy, he asks you to
meet him somewhere close in an hour, and he will then bring one or two school girls for
you to look over."[26]
Another man posted this:
"Quietly, my helper [bar attendant or pimp] suggested that perhaps I would be
interested in seeing what was available in one of the special bar areas. What he alluded
to made my heart race wildly. He said that in there they had some ‘young ones.’
... Inside the other room…sat about 12 little girls watching TV. …On a command
from my attendant, they all sat back up on the couches and smiled at me, giving me their
full attention. …the youngest at my guess about 12. It was obvious that these young
things had not yet matured into ladies… their giggles and squirming quickly gave them
away. No dummies either, the establishment had made no attempts to dress them sexy, but
rather clothed them in young girl outfits befitting their age. I couldn’t restrain
myself! I had to have one of them. I picked out what I took to probably be the oldest one
as she was the most attractive to me. My attendant assured me that all of them were
suitably trained, by my heart went to this one. Her name was Bii. …As she led me away
to the room, I knew I was in for a wild time."[27]
He continues with a graphic description of what he did to the girl that is so
pornographic and abusive I will not reprint it. It includes many references to her "tiny"
mouth and vagina and her "grimace of pain" when he had intercourse with
her.
Non-Commercial Use of the Internet for the
Sexual Exploitaiton, part 3
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