Consistency is the desired goal, but flexibility can be used in making the decision. Guiding children toward this goal -- suggestions to keep stress levels manageable.

• Try to establish homework as part of child's regular routine. Assume from the start that your child will assume responsibility for their assignments. Do not presume they won't do it unless you nag. If your child has adopted the attitude that homework is something to get out of doing, try to convey the message, without preaching, that your family values the development of good work habits.

• Be a positive role model. Point out your routine for some of your responsibilities or specific tasks. Allow flexibility but not neglect of the duty. If the family schedule is running late, for example, rather than saying, "Oh it's late-- don't worry about your homework," tell the child you will write a note explaining to the teacher the situation and confirming that the homework will be completed the following evening.

• Set up a specific place for homework to be done. Some children need privacy; others view isolation as punishment. Be sure selected site is free from distractions. Consistency is the desired goal, but flexibility can be used in decision making. For example, if TV is not allowed, maybe some background music is OK.

Do not lose patience with a child who is struggling.

• Child should have all the supplies. Pencils, papers, a dictionary--can teach independence, a clock to help child to keep going until tasks are completed or until its time for a break.

• Choose a regular time for homework. Children need nourishment and some physical activity after a full day of school. Take time for a snack, some conversation, some playtime before tackling assignments.

Reward children for the act of trying hard even though success may be out of the child's reach.

• Be clear about your role. Show child you are interested and recognize that it is not always easy to accomplish the tasks. Assure the child that you will answer questions and provide help if needed, resist the temptation to do, redo the assignment or take over the project. Be most helpful by: asking the child questions that make the child think about the answers, come up with their own ideas, and solve the problem themselves. It is sometimes useful to relate the problem to other situations. For young children it is important to look over finished homework. Try to convey that you are on their side and you will make sure that they have not forgotten anything --that you are not policing or checking up on the child. Remember to praise a job well done.

• Take time to get acquainted with the child's teacher, early in the term. Keep the lines of communication open so you will be comfortable when asking questions about homework or progress.

• Take the time to recognize a child's efforts when a conscientious effort has been made. Let the child know you appreciate their hard work and reinforce the behavior by offering to spend some special time with them-- taking a walk together, playing a game or preparing a favorite meal.

• Perseverance- assisting in maintaining motivation. Reward signs of perseverance. Set an example by demonstrating this trait yourself.

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